Welcome New Possibilities To Your Life!
-Prachi Patil
When we do not try to hide our pain or Joy..We are perceived differently!
There were times when I used to partially hide my fears, pain points and also happiness from people around me. I thought they will see me as a weak, cribbing, or “overly into herself” kind of person. So, I preferred to talk about all the other stuff in my life.
The fact: I did not want to accept that I was scared and in pain, the fact that I was suppressing, ignoring and finding reasons to justify my fears& the feeling of being less. I did not want to accept that I get joy in simple things, as people will see me boring. I literally refused to take ownership of all the problems in my life and in me as a person. And I became really good at putting a mask, and kept myself so occupied with various things that the inner voice won’t reach me. That did not make me happy. I t made me a miserable, people pleasing person with lot of health issues.
Luckily, I realized my mistakes and started working on it. (the process is still on)
But that’s what we, as people, do. Hiding our fears, ignoring our pain, learning to be comfortable in whatever situation we are in, putting a good mask, keeping ourselves very busy.
The world around us pushes us to do the same, again and again, because everyone is doing the same thing, running some kid of race. And we don’t know what will happen if we stop or slow down this race.
Soon we forget how powerful we are, what we can achieve with our mind power.
The power of self-awareness and reflection, the power of facing our fears and pain, the power of solitude, just being with ourselves, the power of being uncomfortable in the growth journey, the power of self-discipline & emotional regulation.
Not hiding your pain and fears does not mean that you have to share it with every other person in your life.
NO.
Its about not running from those in your mind, learning to recognize and accept rather than ignoring, initiating the process to work on them, slowing down a bit to understand what really really matters.
Most of us keep running the race life without even realizing what we are truly capable of and what truly matters to live peacefully.
DON’T BE THAT PERSON.
One thing I promise you, when you not try to hide away from your inner world, you are perceived as a different person in your outer world.
If you are ready to take ownership of your world, lets talk.
Love,
Prachi
#coachingchangeslives Battles are not the only ones that are fought for a great cause, against injustice or establishing power. Our day to day life is also a place for many unseen battles. Major battles like loss, broken relations, poverty, adversity etc. are visible and mostly we get some kind of support during this period. But not all the battles we fight so many times are visible and understandable by us & people around us. These are our own battles with ourselves. Sometimes the battles are about feeling worthy, feeling enough, protecting self-esteem, proving yourself, dealing with guilt, creating businesses, being accepted, understanding self-worth, loneliness, getting right support, building trustworthy relationships….. ....the list is long. Even though we share part of these battles with our closed ones, there is a gap always. A gap that needs to be filled only and only by US. We seek outside resources, people, relations but forget to dive deep into ourselves because we do not how to do that and honestly, it is scary. The truth is, we can only live a growing, fulfilled life if we dare enough to connect, understand and work on our inner being. Our outer world growth (physical, financial, emotional) is the direct out outcome of wellness of our inner being. Inner, invisible battles are the most difficult ones. Fighting these is tiring. Its a burnout process which hold us back on so many levels. But dealing with them properly with awareness and support is most rewarding. Do not fight these battles alone. Not everyone can fight it alone and win. Take help where can get, Invest where you need. Do not bring your ego, image, “busy being busy” thinking in your own progress. STOP FIGHTING ALONE and getting nowhere. If you want to think for a better life for yourself, take action. Do not keep your battles invisible. Develop a courage to see these battle and win over them. It is the most precious gift you can give it to yourself. If you are ready to do this, let’s talk! Love, Prachi
Few years back, I did not like myself at all. I constantly complained in my mind, the way I look, the worthless education I had ( two masters degrees ), unsupportive relations and every other thing in my life. I hated myself for being so emotional. I did not know what I wanted from life....I was confused & angry. I was hitting my rock bottom mentally and emotionally. My self-esteem and confidence was at the lowest. As a result , my body started to speak. I had a massive outbreak of acne on my face. Headaches, heartburns, sore throat and tonsillitis were frequent visitors. I diagnosed myself as an insomniac. Episodes of mood swings, irritation and outbursts of anger were already there. And as it was not enough, just before my pregnancy, I was diagnosed with Umbilical Hernia. I had a surgery which failed. I was losing touch with myself and my loved ones were suffering with me. When the pain was unbearable, finally I took a decision of bringing the change, no matter how hard it is. I slowly started working on myself, my thinking, emotions, mindset, the need of letting go, forgiving and accepting. I changed every other thing which was not working for me. I admit, the journey was overwhelming and tough at times, but the pain of being in that unpleasant state was scarier. I REFUSED TO GIVE UP! I read books, attended seminars and HIRED A COACH. I found new tools and techniques, wellness habits which literally changed my life. And finally, the universe starts to work for me. My mindset, thinking, behavior and body began to change in a beautiful way. I made it my mission to be a very dedicated and lifelong student of this journey. While going through this process of transformation, I found my purpose!!! "Making people aware of their inner strength, the power of wellness, in both mind and body." I started coaching my friends, family and people around me to bring the positive change in their life . And that's how Welcome Possibilities was born. Coaching towards growth and wellness is not just a profession for me; it's my Purpose, my mission to the level of obsession. I want to invite all of you to this beautiful journey of growth and empowerment. Cheers to amazing YOU and new hopes and possibilities. Stay blessed!! love, prachi
There was a time in my life when I was holding grudges about few people who were not fair to me. “They don’t deserve my forgiveness; they did hurt me purposefully” was my internal dialogue. Every time I saw them, interact with them, talk about them or even thought about them used to bring this angry, bitter feeling inside me. And my internal dialogue used to keep on running over and over on how they are wrong. I had decided that I am never going to forgive and forget as I have been through lot of pain and emotional challenges because of their doings. So, I kept the anger and bitterness inside me and set hard boundaries against them. I was necessary for me to keep all the negative, energy draining, ungrateful people away from me for my mental peace. I also had a dialogue with couple these people on how they were wrong and hurtful. And I thought that is it. I am free to move on. But I was wrong. Some hurts were deep. And merely setting boundaries or confronting was not helpful. The anger and bitterness inside me was making me more closed minded, judgmental and creating a big dent on my peace and sense of being content. So I decided to finally try forgiveness with a bit of skeptic attitude. I tried saying it aloud, meditating on it, some affirmations. It did help me but not completely. And then while coaching a client on the hurt she was holding, I realized something. Just carrying the anger and bitterness in my mind was so very unsettling for me. So how much anger, pain, hurt, unfulfillment the people are carrying in their mind to act onto it, to hurt other people. How vey sad and unhappy these people are for whatever reasons. Maybe they have a traumatic past, maybe they have difficult life, maybe they never made a choice to work on themselves, maybe they don’t even know how to be happy, may be they are suffering even more than I know…. Realizing this, my hurt and bitterness turned into pity and compassion. Then forgiveness was easier. Remember “ Hurt people, hurt people.” Those who are reading, please understand: Holding grudges, being angry and bitter towards someone who did you wrong is going to KEEP YOU IN STATE OF HURT and going to prevent you acting from your full potential. The practice of forgiveness is not about other people, it is to liberate ourselves. It was not easy for me; I still fall short sometimes. Its not going to be easy for you either, but I know, you can do HARD. Be open, live fully and play to your strengths. Life is too short for holding back. Love, Prachi
THE COST ! #coachingchangeslives There was a time in my life where I used to think of cost in terms of Money. (Because most of the people in society thinks that way) When I was at my rock bottom, I understood that I need to work on myself. When I thought of hiring a coach, I was only thinking in terms of money that might cost me. After understanding the fee structure of the coach I was willing to work with, I was kind of taken aback. It was a considerable sum of money and as a homemaker I would have to borrow the money to hire that coach. I had a decision to make and I was bit stressed. So I sat down at the dining table and started some cost benefit analysis. Here is what I understood: The FIRST COST that I was already paying: 1. Not liking myself 2. Very low confidence level, lack of self-respect 3. Depending on people for my self-worth 4. Constantly feeling unworthy, and lacking something 5. Stress in relations, 6. Frequent emotional breakdowns 7. Health issues 8. Lack of Clarity 9. Acting from the place of protecting my ego and image Outcome: Continual suffering, depending on people to change and just waiting to feel worthy with external validations. AND then the SECOND COST I would pay if I Hire that Coach: 1. Considerable sum of money 2. My time and energy 3. Being answerable to the coach 4. Little more discipline 5. Being vulnerable by facing my fears OUTCOME: Hope for a better career & future, self-awareness and management, breaking the limiting patterns, understanding what I could be, sense of self respect, challenges and developing self to accept them, Courage to take hard decisions, satisfaction that I am not giving up on myself. I am immensely glad that I chose the SECOND COST to pay. Which cost you are choosing?
